It is time for you to tell a new erotic story
Most couples go through periods where the sexual activity and or desire wanes, this is normal.
Sometimes it lasts longer than it needs to. It is also common for it to break down completely, and never resume when the original reason for lack of intimacy is resolved.. if it ever gets resolved. When you're in a sexless relationship it can seem like everyone else is having the sex you want, whether that is ANY sex ... or GOOD sex. Often one partner wants more sex and the other one wants better sex and that is part of the problem!!!!
Sometimes it feels like too difficult or scary a task to address why sex is really not happening and then change it. This is extremely painful for both parties, whether you're the one who is not wanting it or you're the one who does not understand why it stopped.
Intimacy is the glue that holds relationships together. I will not just say have sex anyway when you don't want it. I will say that it is an achievable task to resolve what is keeping you apart and put WANTED physical intimacy back on the table. Even if you've been resentful for years, and EVEN IF up until this day, sex has never been pleasurable for you. No amount of long walks holding hands (as recommended by certain professionals) is going to generate the kind of joy and zest for life that deep connected embodied erotic pleasure and intimacy will.
Many problems are caused when a couple does not move out of mating sex into a more sacred and comprehensive sexuality practice, what I call sensualist sex as a convenient definition. When they remain stagnant in both their personal sexual practice, and what they share and experience as a couple. There is a natural biological progression that occurs in long term relationships.
You will work with me to
I work with couples at all stages of sexual disengagement... from early in the relationship to a desire to reconnect (or discover pleasure for the first time) after decades of disconnect.
Depending on the complexity of your personal situation, more sessions may be needed than the outlined curriculum. For example, often women will want to receive several sessions of sensual bodywork as an awakening, or a couple will want the man to see me privately to resolve premature ejaculation. If working together with me is not an option, I will absolutely work with an individual and give them the tools to take home and use with their partner.
Please contact me to discuss how together, we can re-kindle the intimacy and pleasure your relationship deserves!
Sometimes it lasts longer than it needs to. It is also common for it to break down completely, and never resume when the original reason for lack of intimacy is resolved.. if it ever gets resolved. When you're in a sexless relationship it can seem like everyone else is having the sex you want, whether that is ANY sex ... or GOOD sex. Often one partner wants more sex and the other one wants better sex and that is part of the problem!!!!
Sometimes it feels like too difficult or scary a task to address why sex is really not happening and then change it. This is extremely painful for both parties, whether you're the one who is not wanting it or you're the one who does not understand why it stopped.
Intimacy is the glue that holds relationships together. I will not just say have sex anyway when you don't want it. I will say that it is an achievable task to resolve what is keeping you apart and put WANTED physical intimacy back on the table. Even if you've been resentful for years, and EVEN IF up until this day, sex has never been pleasurable for you. No amount of long walks holding hands (as recommended by certain professionals) is going to generate the kind of joy and zest for life that deep connected embodied erotic pleasure and intimacy will.
Many problems are caused when a couple does not move out of mating sex into a more sacred and comprehensive sexuality practice, what I call sensualist sex as a convenient definition. When they remain stagnant in both their personal sexual practice, and what they share and experience as a couple. There is a natural biological progression that occurs in long term relationships.
You will work with me to
- resolve the emotional obstacles to intimacy
- create space for your individual sexuality
- create space for your sexuality as a couple
- learn about your body and that of your partner
- approach re-connection with an attitude of positive curiosity and engagement: just because you have not yet figured out how, does not mean it cannot be done
- be open to new avenues of pleasure as a life long exploration
- have the maturity to understand that your erotic connection is something that you deliberately cultivate: what you put into it is what you will get out
- take responsibility for the quality of your intimacy and sexual interactions
I work with couples at all stages of sexual disengagement... from early in the relationship to a desire to reconnect (or discover pleasure for the first time) after decades of disconnect.
Depending on the complexity of your personal situation, more sessions may be needed than the outlined curriculum. For example, often women will want to receive several sessions of sensual bodywork as an awakening, or a couple will want the man to see me privately to resolve premature ejaculation. If working together with me is not an option, I will absolutely work with an individual and give them the tools to take home and use with their partner.
Please contact me to discuss how together, we can re-kindle the intimacy and pleasure your relationship deserves!