Differences In Desire
A comprehensive guide to mutual satisfaction, and expanded pleasure
A comprehensive guide to mutual satisfaction, and expanded pleasure
Relationships begin with natural passion, it's in our biology. In time, the natural heated desire fades and we are left with libidos by default. Usually one person has a much higher desire for sex and over time in a relationship this leads to resentment and resignation.
I'll be honest, usually it's a high desire partner coming to me asking for my help to increase their partner's libido or desire for sex. This makes sense, if you are in need, you are driven to get that need met and will actively seek out answers.
If you are a high desire person whose partner is far less interested in sex than you are, chances are you feel
If your partner is the high desire person chances are you feel at least some of these
What you need right now is a shift in understanding, and specific activities and habits which bring you together instead of push you apart. What you're doing now isn't working!
You are operating on an immature and outdated model of sexuality which pits us against each other and causes us to become selfish and protective. Our needs for respective space and intimacy infringing on each other rather than complementing each other.
Work with me for 1 month and learn the foundations of an outstanding sexual relationship that override any of the current excuses for lack of intimacy and sensuality
You will learn
If one or both of you has sexual healing to do, for example from trauma or abuse, that is beyond the scope of what I can teach you to do with and for each other, I will make specific recommendations and suggestions. I work with people personally who have been on the receiving end of sexual abuse and trauma, and use either bodywork trancework or both to promote deep healing and releasing of these issues. If you are not local, I will tell you what to look for in a practitioner.
I'll be honest, usually it's a high desire partner coming to me asking for my help to increase their partner's libido or desire for sex. This makes sense, if you are in need, you are driven to get that need met and will actively seek out answers.
If you are a high desire person whose partner is far less interested in sex than you are, chances are you feel
- resentful
- undesired
- unattractive
- needy
- frustrated
- helpless to get your needs met without disrespecting the one you love
- angry or resigned
- guilty about your needs
If your partner is the high desire person chances are you feel at least some of these
- guilty about not meeting your partner's need
- like whatever you do will is not enough
- secretly less attracted to your partner
- manipulated
- like you want to just be left alone
- repulsed and avoidant -- you know that he or she is only being nice so that they can "get some"
- dreading the next time he or she makes a move
- shut down emotionally when the subject of sex comes up
- wonder how they can possibly expect you to want sex when ..... <insert your frustration here>
What you need right now is a shift in understanding, and specific activities and habits which bring you together instead of push you apart. What you're doing now isn't working!
You are operating on an immature and outdated model of sexuality which pits us against each other and causes us to become selfish and protective. Our needs for respective space and intimacy infringing on each other rather than complementing each other.
Work with me for 1 month and learn the foundations of an outstanding sexual relationship that override any of the current excuses for lack of intimacy and sensuality
You will learn
- The foundations: mating versus bonding sex
- Eliminating resentments and building trust
- Safety first, then communication, then exploration
- How to talk about sex
- Inviting Intimacy as a daily practice
- How to be a source of safety rather than stress for your low desire partner, so s/he turns to you and melts, rather than withdraws
- Why you do not have to have a high libido, or any desire at all to enjoy and even crave frequent and passionate lovemaking
- Expanding your lovemaking repertoire -- heightened and extended sexual pleasure
- Allowing sexual intimacy to be a pillar of strength that brings you together instead of pushing you apart
- Conscious cultivation and healthy expression of sexual energy, whether you have a surplus or deficit compared to your loved one
If one or both of you has sexual healing to do, for example from trauma or abuse, that is beyond the scope of what I can teach you to do with and for each other, I will make specific recommendations and suggestions. I work with people personally who have been on the receiving end of sexual abuse and trauma, and use either bodywork trancework or both to promote deep healing and releasing of these issues. If you are not local, I will tell you what to look for in a practitioner.