![]() I am a proponent of having regular sex, whether you actively desire it or not. Maybe I should shift the terminology and say “engage in intimacy” rather than have sex. I believe that the benefits of engaging in regular, and go as far as to say daily doses of pleasurable intimacy serve to bring a couple closer together, promote trust, love and even fidelity. For the low desire person this might initially sound outrageous, suggesting duty and the endurance of daily unwanted invasive sexual contact in order to keep the other person happy. But it's the complete opposite, and actually serves to turn intimacy into something that you crave and enjoy, rather than dread. Not because you're "hornier" but because the process of engagement and experience is something to enjoy and isn't in any way invasive. So lets take a closer look at what engaging in intimacy actually means, how it can benefit you, and most importantly how to embrace and even anticipate it when you have low, or no desire. I get into the specifics in great detail on my home study course “differences in desire” and help couples with their particular obstacles. First, what do you get out of daily intimacy? Your relationship will become warmer and more flirtatious, there will be a sense of contentment, closeness, feeling cared for. You will appreciate and love your body, as well as your partner's. The highly sexed partner will be getting the physical attention they crave. Read any research on touch and massage and you will see that touch creates oxytocin, the love hormone. You literally create love for each other on a daily basis through touch. Your capacities for pleasure will go through the roof – that is my personal claim, based on improving and upping your pleasure potential and sensitizing your bodies. Sinking into that space allows resentments, anxieties, depressions and even physical pain to melt away. This is good stuff, I call it the closest thing to a magic relationship elixir. I still hear you saying, but I don't want it, how can I possibly engage in sex when I don't want it? Here is how it's done. You need to
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A J
9/9/2014 03:01:23 pm
I enjoyed this post. Excellent learning opportunity. Keep up the good work
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Eric
15/5/2015 06:44:05 pm
I really enjoyed the article. Having started out life with unhealthy sexual stimulation before I could talk, coming to enjoy physical touch without orgasm took work-but so worth it. Makes all the other experiences of sexual intimacy magical.
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