Cannot "release" Want to make love

Comment: Hi, i enjoyed reading your answers to some questions that are not asked in the normal day to day talk of male to female.Your openess and candid replies ,i'm sure will help men of all ideals.My question to you is,i've been single for 2 years now, and haven't made love in this time,i'm waiting for the right woman,so masterbating is a ususal course of action.,this act has taken a turn where it has become more mechanical, and i can't release, so without going to porn, what can your sessions do for me, to bring me back to a more loving sexual energy, without the need to make love to you to experience this. 

It's hard to answer this fully without having an interactive discussion with you. 

You provided some information, but the question you asked did not correspond directly to it, so I'm going to go ahead and assume a few things for the sake of being able to post this before meeting with you in person for a dialogue. 

Presumably you're not pleased about being unable to release, and wish to be able to? 

How is your libido? 

Are you masturbating because it's just something to do when you're erect, or are you doing it because you are so infused with desire you absolutely need a release? Perhaps waiting until you need to would be more prudent. Also, you could be bored and wanting connection, the lack of connection and inspiration from a woman you desire is causing this lacklustre feeling. If that is the case my simplistic answer, for brevity's sake, is to tell you to “put out there to the universe” that you are now ready and willing to meet a woman to enjoy love and intimacy with. Then, drop the subject, be happy, enjoy everything about your world and allow her into your life. While you're waiting, in a non attached manner, appreciate sexy and sensual and loving qualities of women that do surround you in anticipation of receiving and interacting with more of the same. 

Have you tried NOT doing for a while? Just because you're hard does not mean it's got to be rubbed out. Rubbed out, does that term work for men or is it a term for females only? Don't underestimate the benefits of arousal! Develop and cultivate your arousal. Savour it, notice it, meditate on it, play with it. Release the end goal to ejaculate and using the techniques that I know that you know ;) breathe your sexual energy into yourself and let it nourish and energize you. Sexual energy is a highly motivating force, and you may find that with a build up, you are more energized and motivated and eager to meet your next lover. Attractive men are confident, motivated, and take action when they need to. Everyone is unique in their style and personal energy, but people who are unable to step up and take action when they need to do not often get what they want. 

So, what can I do for you... the question is what do you want from me? Do you just want to be able to release again? I really do not think that would be difficult for me to achieve. Lol. 

 We have a wonderful rapport. I think that when someone has been as depleted inall ways as you have, it is safer and easier to remain hidden and dormant, and to find many reasons why it is necessary and important to stay that way. We both know that you want to be ready to embrace life and love again, perhaps in some deep recesses of your heart there is some soreness, but a lot of it is numbness now, and with it, a little bit of that overwhelm that happens when you have to start from scratch with “what's next.” 

 I would like to see you feel the love and appreciation I have for you in our sessions. I want you to get a taste of what you are wanting and needing and for it to be that slight push to compel you to move towards your goals. Your comment “without the need to make love to you” struck me somehow. You desire to make love, as most healthy humans do, and to give and receive loving ecstasy. If you got everything you needed from me, you would not need to grow in order to get what you want, would you? That was tongue in cheek, but seriously. There are some things holding holding you back from having the relationship you are almost ready to have at the moment. I'm here to help you heal, and to promote positive change and perhaps give a little direction. Not be an enabler of complacency or staying still in one comfortable spot in order to avoid change and getting the most out of life.