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When you think of sexual confidence with regards to women, what is it that comes to mind?
Close your eyes for a moment, think “sexual confidence” and notice what images come to mind, notice how you compare yourself to those concepts of what sexually confident means.
A lot of people think that in order to have sexual confidence, you must be “sexy,” and by sexy they mean conventionally attractive from the standpoint of what is broadcasted across our media. A woman of certain proportions, unblemished, an impossible combination of looks and youth with virginal innocence and porn star performance in the bedroom. A good girl on the outside and a slut in the bedroom who performs as the perfect canvas for her man’s fantasies. A shallow and unsustainable concept at best, destructive and inhibiting as well.
Is sexual confidence about being conventionally beautiful?
Is it about knowing how to behave in a manner that arouses the desires of men (or other women)?
Is it about taking strip tease classes, blow job classes, lingerie, getting breast implants, liposuction, vaginal rejuvenation surgery, HgH injections lip implants and going into debt to try (and I say try) to recapture the silhouettes of fertile youth?
Whose rules have you been expertly playing by in order to maintain your habit of being not sexually confident? Your mother’s? Your father’s? Your Church’s? Is it the hundreds of thousands of advertisements that are carefully designed to create a feeling of inadequacy you so that you purchase something to ease that pain?
Consider this: what is it you risk needing to let go of in order to have full sexual confidence as a woman?
Your sexuality is an infinitely vast and rich landscape to cultivate, explore, take pleasure in, discover, feel good about and adore. If you have feelings of insecurities and believe that you cannot be sexually confident…. You have taken on a story about female sexuality that IS NOT TRUE and are holding that story up next to yours, comparing yourself to it and saying because I am not this, I am not okay.
I have seen beautiful powerful women with incredible confidence and accomplishments in many areas of life resign themselves to feeling flawed, disgusting, and used up and unsexy because their husbands are playing a script in which they fall short of his expectations and believe that his inability to appreciate is somehow their fault.
Lets talk about how to actually feel sexually confident!
Knowledge and experience helps. An understanding of sexuality is wonderful and enhances the experience of pleasure that you are capable of creating for yourself and with your partner. Competence leads to confidence! However, it’s not necessary that you know everything first, the attitude of curiosity, of deservingness, of presence and engagement gives you everything you need to know to have that sense of sexual confidence.
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