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What is Erotic Hypnosis Good For? 

11/9/2014

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The term Erotic Hypnosis invokes mystery and allure, a tantalizing combination of words that sounds extremely exciting, and more than a little dangerous. So what is it? I use erotic hypnosis in my practice as an intimacy educator and consultant, and will outline the most common uses, then go into greater detail of what I like it for.

  1. Hypno Domination: a subsection of BDSM where someone, usually a "HypnoDomme" exerts mind control over her subjects. Admittedly I have not experienced this beyond some appalling YouTube videos. I have no doubt that it has potential, I just have not yet seen it performed elegantly or in a way that is appealing to me.
  2. Pick up artistry: From what I gather, this has more to do with NLP than hypnosis, and this is where people use hypnotic or language tips and techniques to manipulate women into having sex with them. In some, what I would call sociopathic cases, it involves complete seduction and emotional ownership of a target. I've witnessed a lot of these men. Some are skilled, others use the pick up lines taught verbatim. The thing is, there is valuable information on rapport and being engaging and social etiquette for people who are socially and romantically challenged. It is a shame that there is such a large degree of grossness involved in the sexual manipulation and misogynistic concepts behind a lot of this
  3. Positive Erotic Hypnosis: this term may or may not have been coined by Talmadge Harper, the Hypnotist who first introduced me to the concept, but it instantly appealed to me. This is where hypnosis is used for sexual confidence, sexual and emotional healing, to improve performance and orgasms, and to have wonderful erotic and arousing experiences during hypnosis.
The potential of positive erotic hypnosis is tremendous, especially when it's used with skill and with positive intent. By positive I mean for the greater good of all, and in a non manipulative fashion. I personally love to use it to increase the erotic sensitivity of body parts, and to increase sensation to the point where it is excruciatingly pleasurable. This is different than overstimulation! It is wonderful to program people to be able to orgasm from breast and nipple stimulation, and I do have a self hypnosis mp3 which does just that.

Some ideas that may not have been thought of, are to increase erotic sensation in a body which is unable to have or move in traditional ways during sex, or even to have sex.



  • Create a scenario which allows one gender to experience the other's body.
  • Improve Erectile Dysfunction and Premature Ejaculation.
  • Teach a person to be able to get into a flow state and enjoy sexual experiences fully, instead of worrying about performance and other distracting issues. This is for both men and women, we think of performance as being a male issue but women worry about performing visually and often spend most of the time "acting for an observer" rather than fully participating.
  • Create prolonged and heightened states of ecstasy. Seriously, who needs orgasm when the ecstasy is more than the O? I believe that pleasure/connection is the point of intimacy and there should not be a rush to release the built up pleasure and tension that play provides. Why not enjoy riding the waves for a while?
  • Body image improvement. We've all been hypnotized by popular media to know how we don't measure up. How about some reprogramming for self love.
  • Back to nipple orgasms, and sensitizing body parts. It's fun to gently stroke your partner's wrist when you've made it even more erotically sensitive and connected to their genitals. Not to mention the party trick of erotically sensitizing a bald man's head and encouraging everyone at the party to give it a rub.
Erotic hypnosis has endless applications, and I look forward to it's increase in popularity and acceptance.
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Sexual Complexity Calls for new Therapy

5/9/2014

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Evolving Relationships and Sexuality Calls for a new kind of Therapist

Sex is simple, except it’s not.  As our society becomes increasingly exposed to sex, increasingly educated and connected, and more aware of sexual potential, a gap in the area of education and teaching has become glaringly obvious. People are desperately seeking information for their sexual issues and not getting it. 

The world of human sexuality is enormous in it’s complexity.  The question remains, where do you go when you need help? 

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The internet is most people’s first choice and there is a lot that you can find. However, most articles are shallow fluff at best with zero real information or answers, often conflict with each other, and outright damaging and false at worst.  

Second choice is the medical field, which is valuable for the things that medicine is good for.  Sexually transmitted diseases, operations, medicine.  However, you cannot medicalize sexuality and relationships.  If a person’s hormonal profile and health is normal and they have zero desire for sex, much to the detriment of their relationship, how is that fixed?  Today sex as a duty to one’s spouse is not good enough for either partner, desire and being desired are necessary components to a healthy intimate relationship.   What about that penis that occasionally works fine and occasionally doesn’t, and doesn’t respond to medication?  The vagina that mysteriously hurts during intercourse with no medical reason, or the woman who can’t orgasm in spite of the patient efforts of her lover.  What about the couple who wants to learn from the best just how to touch each other to give each other the kind of pleasure that dreams are made of?  The couple who are dealing with the aftermath of a prostate removal and need to know how to have incredible sex and  intimacy without erections.

 A new breed of experts are coming out,  people who work with human sexuality and relationships, often hands on, and who are addressing the real needs of people.    People such as Freja Njorden (myself) of www.thesensualist.org in the Toronto Area, Pamela Madsen, Amy Jo Goddard,  Charlie Glickman, Ron Stewart and Devi Ward, to name a few.  My clients often come to me after they have had a problem for years, sometimes even decades.  They have been to the doctor, the urologist, the relationship counselor, the psychiatrist...  and sometimes a different approach is necessary.  We are not competition to the doctors and counselors which were formerly the only options -- but the complement to them, offering  real world knowledge and experience, a compassionate adjunct for those seeking solutions. 



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