Evolving Relationships and Sexuality Calls for a new kind of Therapist

Sex is simple, except it’s not.  As our society becomes increasingly exposed to sex, increasingly educated and connected, and more aware of sexual potential, a gap in the area of education and teaching has become glaringly obvious. People are desperately seeking information for their sexual issues and not getting it. 

The world of human sexuality is enormous in it’s complexity.  The question remains, where do you go when you need help? 

The internet is most people’s first choice and there is a lot that you can find. However, most articles are shallow fluff at best with zero real information or answers, often conflict with each other, and outright damaging and false at worst.  

Second choice is the medical field, which is valuable for the things that medicine is good for.  Sexually transmitted diseases, operations, medicine.  However, you cannot medicalize sexuality and relationships.  If a person’s hormonal profile and health is normal and they have zero desire for sex, much to the detriment of their relationship, how is that fixed?  Today sex as a duty to one’s spouse is not good enough for either partner, desire and being desired are necessary components to a healthy intimate relationship.   What about that penis that occasionally works fine and occasionally doesn’t, and doesn’t respond to medication?  The vagina that mysteriously hurts during intercourse with no medical reason, or the woman who can’t orgasm in spite of the patient efforts of her lover.  What about the couple who wants to learn from the best just how to touch each other to give each other the kind of pleasure that dreams are made of?  The couple who are dealing with the aftermath of a prostate removal and need to know how to have incredible sex and  intimacy without erections.

 A new breed of experts are coming out,  people who work with human sexuality and relationships, often hands on, and who are addressing the real needs of people.    People such as Freja Njorden (myself) of www.thesensualist.org in the Toronto Area, Pamela Madsen, Amy Jo Goddard,  Charlie Glickman, Ron Stewart and Devi Ward, to name a few.  My clients often come to me after they have had a problem for years, sometimes even decades.  They have been to the doctor, the urologist, the relationship counselor, the psychiatrist...  and sometimes a different approach is necessary.  We are not competition to the doctors and counselors which were formerly the only options -- but the complement to them, offering  real world knowledge and experience, a compassionate adjunct for those seeking solutions.