Comment: I really liked how you answered my question/concern about the precum situation in our session, so I thought I'd ask it here. Maybe others have the same question/concern.
When I get the slightest bit aroused I start to drip precum. If Im standing naked there will be strings of precum dripping to the floor. This is great when the lubrication is required, but messy and annoying when it's not. Is it normal to get a lot of precum? What is a woman's perspective on this? How do women view a guy having a matching wet spot on their pants as them?
The "how do women" is going to take some research on my part as I've not actually talked to other women about it. Give me some time and I'll poll some ladies I know (in your age range ;) and get back to you on this.
In the mean time, it's an acid neutralizer. The vagina is very acidic, so your body is functioning well in that it's getting ready to neutralize that acid so it does't kill off all your sperm after you've left it inside. I think the wet spot is hot. It's an indicator, and as I find arousal arousing... it's all good. You know? Again, I'll ask other girls but think of how you feel when a woman has responded to you by soaking through her panties... or if she's not wearing any, dripping down onto her thighs :)
Comment: Okay, maybe I have a sensitive nose or perhaps lifelong chest problems have led to my intolerance of strong and even specific scents, the latest having become the smell of vinegar!
On the plus side, I love certain scents, a woman 'blooding' for one, yes, I am one of those men that will deeply inhale whilst in the presence of a woman, I'd go so far as to admit to 'smelling' almost in a canine fashion, my partners with mixed reactions it must be said too.
From a personal perspective Freja, the prerequisite for cleanliness aside, do you prefer your clients to have a neutral smell rather than be anointed or worse still, in my opinion, liberally camouflaged with some aerosol or other?
Yes, I agree, rarely though, some manufactured fragrances enhance our bodies but generally have people become automated in their routine of masking their own personal scent?
Another personal preference question :)
This is actually mentioned in the faq and etiquette page. I prefer my clients to be freshly washed, period. I am very sensitive to scents of all sorts. There are some colognes or soap and bodywash fragrances that smell lovely to me and are a pleasure to detect, but my own preference is for there to be a hint of fragrance rather than for me to be overwhelmed with it. It's a serious turn off and irritant to have my nose in strong or fresh sprayed cologne. ... in the massage room just be clean please! I request that a client be freshly washed for massage, but I can tell you, I've come across so many ripe odours in my studio that I truly do not think that people realize how unclean their bums are. While I'm not sticking my hand or nose in anyone's crevice, I am working above their backside and on their glutes and legs and the smell of excrement is truly sickening. Which leads to the digression: the quality of toilet paper in this country is appalling. Cleanliness and my own comfort aside, I do think people have become routine in masking and are actually afraid of their own scent. The thing is, our scents are there for a reason, they tell you so much: health genetic and sexual compatibility, a woman's personal scent changes throughout her cycle, the smell of sexual arousal, or fear. I love the smell of man. It's a pleasure to me to nuzzle up to his neck and inhale and get that warm masculine mix including not only the neck and shoulder, but some of the scent from the scalp with a faint hint of whatever aftershave or wash he used earlier that day. Being able to smell him is a physical turn on to me. Having my nose blasted with chemicals is not only unpleasant, but it forces me to keep my nose and face away from him and is a turn off. You're not the first person who has expressed his love of the female scent........ I've been sniffed to a degree that would be embarrassing, If I did not enjoy being enjoyed. Personal scent is a powerful mode of communication.
Comment: Firstly, Hello
My topic centres around honesty and therefore encompasses a world of content, where to begin.
You are clearly passionate, encouraging openness and self awareness, the understanding of truth and belief in one's true Self.
Okay, a question to get this ball rolling:
Are you happier, more comfortable, more responsive, hornier in an intimate situation clothed, whether totally or partially, or stark b...... naked?
Me personally?! Well... This will require baring myself a bit, but I might as well.
In an intimate situation, I am all of the above, happier, more comfortable, more responsive, hornier, when I am comfortable. Period. I need to feel safe. What does safe mean? There are many levels of safety, of course I may trust that the man in my bed is not going to smack me, insult me, rape me...... But other levels of safety include emotional safety and levels of acceptance. How well does he know me? Is he going to touch me the way I like to be touched, and most importantly, how do I feel about myself in his presence? I will give an example. Stark naked in the daylight can be difficult for me. I do it all the time, and I always make love with the lights or candles on ... sometimes fully naked sometimes not. The thing is, I do not have a perfect body. I'm not slender, I've had children and pregnancy left it's scars. I am not going to be turned on unless I know that my lover adores my body the way it is. If I feel that he is looking at me critically I will not enjoy being fully nude. If something is weighing on my mind, I will not become as aroused, if at all. So, there are times when being partially clothed or in sexy lingerie actually is conducive to me feeling happier, hornier and more aroused as it eases my own insecurities. There is nothing like full on body to body contact and eye gazing in intimate love making though.
It figures, my first question would be such a controversial one!
I am not circumcised, and have always wondered if it would have been better if I was. In locker-rooms etc. it feels like im the odd one out. Most guys seem to be cut. What is your experience with circumcision? I wonder what difference there is in orgasm between the 2. What seems to be the ratio with cut vs. uncut? Should parents be encouraged not to circumcise boys?
Circumcision from Wikipedia.org
Male circumcision is the removal of the foreskin, usually for religious, cosmetic, or medical reasons. The removal of the frenulum may be performed at the same time. The age at which circumcision may be performed varies widely, with groups such as Americans and Jews typically circumcising in the neonatal period and African tribes such as the Maasai and Xhosa circumcising in teenage years as initiation into adulthood. In modern medicine, circumcision may be used as treatment for phimosis or recurrentbalanitis. Advocacy is often centered around preventive medicine while opposition is often centered around human rights and the potentially harmful side effects of circumcision. The World Health Organization estimates that roughly 30% of the world's men are circumcised.
<deep breath> It took me a while to decide how to address this question, because I do not want to step on any toes or make anyone think that I would have a problem with their genitals. The first thing to say is that ... no matter what... you are absolutely fine and perfect the way you are. I lived in Europe for almost a decade and this would never have been a question as in most of the world, genital surgery is not performed on babies. Most countries have outlawed what they call “female genital mutilation” which is circumcision of females, and meant to control female sexuality by reducing their sexual desire. A little known fact is that Harvey Kellogg, of Kellogg's cornflakes, in an attempt to stop the practice of masturbation recommended a particular diet, as well as circumcision – as it is extremely traumatic and reduces sensation. The treatment for girls to stop them was to put acid on their clitorises and labia.
There are popular arguments for the surgery, and they're all bunk.
A circumcised penis is not less likely to develop cancer, it's not cleaner, whether it's more attractive is a matter of personal taste. We are fed a lot of propaganda over this issue, and part of the problem is that there is a lot of pride and ego involved in one's penis. If you're circumcised, it's irreversible. Who wants to imagine or admit that perhaps they are not fully functioning? As always, it's easier to ridicule and defend something different, than it is to open one's mind. I don't know what the difference is with orgasms, since there is more to orgasm than just physical sensation. With circumcision there is less sensation over all, less sensitivity... but there are many other factors which contribute to an orgasm. You know for yourself that they vary in intensity depending on the situation and your mental state.
Statistics of cut vs uncut? Where? What year? The rates here in America are falling dramatically as people become more educated, and less likely to go along with the status quo.
I am not going to write a 6 page novel on circumcision, but I will provide several links and if you're interested, you can take a look and decide for yourself whether you are pleased about being intact, or whether you would like to consider the surgery now, as an adult. Some men do. I understand that there are some women out there with harsh opinions. I heard a young pretty American girl with some strong opinions in a German bar one time, she was out of her element there. Loud mouthed, uninformed, and obnoxious, in her promotion of the proceedure, she had every man in the bar cringing and crossing his legs. Just because something is commonly done, does not mean it is actually the best thing for the people that it is done to. In cases like that, I would say be educated! Would I feel bad about my beautiful labia and intact sensitive and wonderfully responsive clitoris because some uneducated <person> were to tell me it was disgusting and unbecoming of a woman? If you have an ignorant girlfriend, you can gently educate her on the benefits and positive qualities of an intact penis. Give her time to experience it, and it will help if you're a good lover, in order to put things in their best light :)
I absolutely do not recommend circumcision. I am sure there are a few rare cases in which it is necessary, but even with phimosis, a condition where the foreskin does not stretch enough to ever retract back over the head, there are usually better options. In my personal experience, there appears to be a great loss in sensation (sorry guys, you can argue that you feel it all but how would you know?) as the majority of nerve endings are found there, and the sensitive head is no longer protected most of the time. Instead, it develops a callous over it, and dries out. I could go on, but these sites will make their own cases. We've all heard the case FOR the surgery, this is just the other side of it. I am pleased for you, and would thank your parents for leaving your body the way it was supposed to be.
That being said: our bodies are what they are, and there is nothing inherently wrong with any of us. I vehemently disagree that we should feel any degree of shame or discomfort because of the physical characteristics of our bodies. It's time we love and accept each other on a level which does not include judgement and rejection. Your genitals (male, female, or transgender created) are part of your physical body and they're there to feel good, so learn about yourself and how to make the most of your body and it's enormous capacity for pleasure. Love to all of you!
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