Many sexual “healers” and educators talk about awakening the Goddess or God within and wax sentimental about a time where this God/dess was worshipped, revered, and embodied by certain men and women in sacred sexual rituals. This kind of thing is often dismissed as woo woo or new age nonsense, however when taken as metaphor is relevant and useful even to the most down to earth, scientific and matter of fact person.
So, what does it mean to activate or embody your inner Sex God or Goddess?
Simply put, it means to put yourself into a peak state for sex, specifically high level ecstatic connected sex. Every one of us has a multitude of ego states that we move through in order to navigate our lives. The state you are in when playing with your children is very different from that in a high stress work environment, when running from a bear, or when attempting to seduce a lover. The ego state making the decisions is The Executive. To access a part of you, a state which feels and behaves like a sexual God/dess, is powerful, sensual, confident, focused, and who lives in a state of love (rather than victim hood or predatorial) you simply bring that specific state the executive position for as long as necessary. We see it when a sweet shy seeming woman steps into her role as a high level burlesque dancer on stage, or when a high level athlete gets into the zone. Talking about the God/dess does not mean you believe there are powerful beings in the sky, it can also be a metaphor for a set of traits which are beneficial and desirable.
I say to simply bring this state into the executive, but what if you don’t know how? What if your habitual sexual ego state is not a God/dess but is insecure? Disconnected? Ashamed? Protective? Defensive? Manipulative or abusive?
Intimacy and Sexuality coaches can help teach you to access these positive ego states and integrate them into your relationships: just as a business coach or motivational or athletic coach can helps you to access high performance states: These new intimacy coaches, sacred sex practitioners teach you principles of intimacy and love, and teach you how to access those extraordinarily powerful ego states.
Forget old belief systems that demonized sexuality, reserving it for procreation and associating it with fear based punishments (hell, anyone?). Forget new cultural systems which glorify disconnect, objectivity, abuse and promote addictive behaviours that destroy sexual function, sensitivity and even connection and intimacy in relationships. Neither men or women are satisfied or willing to accept low level status quo experiences anymore!
This is a time for openness and discussion. Not the “50 ways to drive him wild” drivel we see in magazine or click bait. Real, actionable information. Real, hands on healing.
There is a need for adult sex education. These educators, coaches, and skilled bodyworkers enable people to understand themselves and to fully utilize the power of their sexual energy consciously, instead of as a default response to habitual activities and programmed stimulation.
A common statement that I hear is “I didn’t know something like (The Sensualist) existed” and at least in Hamilton Ontario, it’s true. There are many well known and incredible educators on the West Coast of both Canada and the US. Here, there is a huge divide: Pharmaceuticals, Therapeutic Clinical Massage, Sex Therapists (of the verbal consultant type) and the underground… the erotic massage parlours and providers. Most in less than savoury conditions, they are there not only to serve the population who are looking for sex at a discounted rate, but unfortunately are the only option for many who are looking for human touch, compassion, and intimacy on a real heart level. Out of need. Many of them find themselves offering sex education and advice to their Johns. There is a missing link and major gap which until now, was not being met.
It’s time to address this gap in a wholesome way and provide positive understanding of ourselves. Healing from the damaging effects that a lifetime of harmful sexual beliefs, habits and experiences and finally to move to generative work. Raising the sexual consciousness of our relationships and reaping the rewards of such a powerful method of connecting and being together in love. It starts with a shift in perception, and it starts with a new kind of coach/teacher/educator, and bodywork which supports an individual’s personal intimate healing and growth.
THIS is the mission at The Sensualist.
It is a new kind of experience, an opportunity to heal and discover your sexual self and improve your relationships.
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